For as long as I can remember, I have been a shy and reserved person – an introvert mostly. I love my own space and enjoy me-time a lot. I enjoy being with people too but when it is more than 2 people, it just gets overwhelming and I move into the background again. This happens time and again and living in a boarding school and in community, it is bound to happen more often than not!
Introverts don’t choose to be introverts! It’s the way we are all wired within ourselves. We have our reservations and there is absolutely nothing wrong in being like that!
I enjoy having people around me… the ones I am comfortable with. However, it does take me a while before I can get comfortable with someone.
Chatting with other introverts is the most comfortable I can get… mostly because they ‘get’ what you are saying and have been through the same situations and felt the same way I have! They see me for me! I don’t have to pretend to be what I am not.
This afternoon was just like that… I met up with a friend for coffee and I was able to move from one topic to another with such ease – I guess I kind of shocked myself too! She is an introvert too and chatting with her was so encouraging. It made me realise that no matter what I said or felt at that moment, she understood and was not judgmental at all… It was comforting.
As a teacher, you are automatically expected to be someone who is outgoing and lively and out there!! That is such a wrong notion people have! Teachers don’t necessarily have to be extroverts or out going people. You can be an introvert and still be a brilliant teacher!
At the end of the day, introverts are humans too, with feelings and emotions. We can joke and have fun and be silly but with a select few… everyday we take baby steps to do things outside our comfort zone. Baby steps!! Even those steps take a lot of effort and courage but sometimes we are in situations where we don’t have a choice.
Some people tend to see introverts as misfits and outcasts or just plain snobs! Funny but I sometimes think that extroverts are loud, rude and obnoxious!! So, I guess these notions work both ways…
I think to remove these wrong notions, people should make more of an effort to get to know people better, to take the time to understand them and to give each other a chance! How wonderful it would be if we could all live in harmony together. Extroverts and introverts!! In another 150 years perhaps… when there’s another Blue moon? 😊😉